Why do we feel hurt? In this blog, we’d like to explore the question of why human beings feel hurt and the many benefits that enquiry could bring. This feeling of being hurt is not unique to any one person but the same in all human beings, so we can explore this together, just by looking at ourselves clearly. #healing That understanding itself can bring change. So what are the common ways we get hurt? We get hurt when our expectations are not met. We may expect a friend to call us on our birthday, and when they don’t we feel bad. # healing We also have many psychological needs, which we are not aware of and expect others to fulfil. We want to be loved and respected, feel important, be listened to and understood and so on. If these needs are not met, we can feel hurt. We also get hurt when we are criticized. # healing https://blogs.humanwisdom.me/ If someone is a surgeon and you are critical of their surgical skills, they would feel hurt. If on the other hand you say they are a useless cook, they would probably laugh and agree with you. The difference is that they have an opinion or image of themselves as a good surgeon, but don’t regard themselves as a good cook. # healing We have many such images of ourselves, which we are not aware of, and when they are challenged, we get hurt. We can get hurt when an opinion or belief we are attached to is challenged- if someone says something bad about our religion for example. So, how do we respond when we get hurt? We usually blame the other person for hurting us, even though the expectation or image or strong opinion that caused the hurt in the first place was created by our own thinking. We may react by withdrawing our affection and not speaking to the other person, who may not know we have been hurt, and not understand why. Sometimes our hurt leads us to get angry, and that can lead to violence and we can see the effects of that in the world. There are many benefits of understanding this process more deeply. # healing It may make us take responsibility for the feeling and not blame others for hurting us, because the ultimate cause of being hurt lies in us, in our reaction to what has happened. # healing This may push us to understand the whole process by which our images, expectations, opinions and psychological needs are created and see the link between them and getting hurt. As a result of this understanding we may not react in the usual way by withdrawing our affection or with anger or violence and that may help not only bring harmony to our relationships- but also bring peace to a troubled world. To find out more visit humanwisdom.me. #healing
